I’ve talked with women all over the US about the loss of identity that often occurs when professional women have children. This feeling seems to be common among executive women that I speak to who usually range in ages between 30 to 45.

For example, I once interviewed a woman who was previously a partner in a very large law firm in Washington DC making over $.5 Million per year. Prior to deciding to start a family, she was the major breadwinner for her family. Once she and her husband embarked upon becoming three, they decided her husband’s career would become the focus and hers would take the back seat.

So, I bet you’re wondering what in the world could rap music have to do with life lessons for executive women?  Keep reading.  I was perusing Tony Robbins’ newsletter when I noticed a link to an appearance on MTV.  I thought, “Tony Robbins is going to take a shot at being a rapper now?  Come on!”.  Anyway, I was just curious enough to watch so I clicked through.  Seems that Hurricane Chris in his 51/50 Ratchet CD has some serious clarity about personal leadership.  The video from Hip Hop Owner’s Manual describes a rap music term, RATCHET. The definition of Ratchet is living your life’s dream and being yourself without regard for what anyone else thinks.  In Rapper speak, “Doing YOU”.  Ratchet comes with a few guiding principles:

My coaching colleague Tim Kelley has a great quote about life purpose. He says, “Your life purpose is the thing that you have struggled with the most in your own life.” At the time I heard Tim speak, I was still pondering what I really wanted in my second career. I was working but just didn’t feel passionate about what I was doing. At the same time, I was also managing the Six Figure Moms Club in San Diego but I didn’t often mention my work in this area. People would always ask but I would just smile and say, “Oh, that’s not what I do. It’s a fun way for me to give back to the world.” Well, the universe has a way of consistently reminding us what we’re here for. Six Figure Moms became my clients. They became my friends. They inspired me. Some even became my support network and then I finally got the point. I was supposed to do something more than I was doing because this could REALLY help executive women like me.